Every year, on the evening of December 31st, folks around the world are united in at least one respect: they’re all compiling a list of New Year’s resolutions. Whether scant or long, easy or ambitious, these lists represent a promise of change, progress, and hope as a new calendar year begins. At their essence, these resolutions represent something very simple and universal: we all want to be a little better. With these lists, we place a wager against ourselves—do we have the discipline and fortitude to follow through?
The trick of the matter is that the shift from December 31st to January 1st of a new year is rarely as monumental as we’d like it to be—it’s simply a new day. This reality makes maintaining our resolutions a challenging endeavour, and these convictions can often fall by the wayside as early as the next evening. But checking in on how we’ve done on these resolutions, whether we find success or failure, is a helpful and constructive practice. Now that we’re six months into 2018, it’s a good time to peek back at your resolutions to assess your progress (or lack thereof) and adjust your path accordingly for the rest of the year.
The point of this practice is two-fold. First, it’s to see where we’ve failed to live up to the expectations dictated by our former selves. If it’s true that failure is the greatest teacher, than we cheat ourselves of valuable lessons when we refuse to examine our own shortcomings. Acknowledging our weaknesses is the first step towards fixing them. Second, we can chart new paths for the rest of the year. It is easy to shrug this off as wishful optimism, but the alternative is another six months wasted. Instead of soaking in disappointment or chastising ourselves for lack of action, this step converts those feelings into something constructive, and sets a positive, practical course that can reinvigorate a tough year.
Assessment of your progress depends on both your metrics for success and the goals you set, so this is, like all things resolution-related, a personal exercise, but an important note is that resolutions do not have to be absolute. They’re an ideal to work towards rather than an iron-clad cut-off, so be sure to view steps taken towards your resolution as a success of sorts. A helpful comparison to use is, ‘Was I doing X at this time last year?’ or ‘Was I working towards X at this time last year?’ If the answer is no, then you’ve at least made some change. The lie of mainstream resolution-making is that change has to be radical. It’s untenable to try to change our personalities overnight; give yourself some time.
Similarly, if you haven’t made any strides toward your goal, perhaps it’s time to consider their importance. Does it still matter to you? If so, why haven’t you worked towards it? Analyze the barriers and reasons why you haven’t applied yourself to these tasks. This information will help you going forward. When a vehicle isn’t working properly, a mechanic runs a diagnostic—it’s important that we do the same from time to time.
The next part—recalibrating our resolutions for the next six months—is more ephemeral, but it’s reliant on the data gathered from the first step. Base your game plan for the second half of the year on that information. Contextualize it with how your year might have changed; perhaps your goals aren’t the same. This is the exciting bit. Half a year is a long time, and for the second half, we can commit ourselves to a wholly different set of personal screw-tightening. It’s like a new new take on 2018.
Regardless of how you started the year, there’s time to finish it out differently. Maybe you’re on a good path, in which case you’ll stay the course. But it’s been a trying, turbulent year for most, and stepping back to assess how we’ve been affected is key to moving forward in an effective manner. New Year’s resolutions are fun, but the mid-year resolution reset is the one we learn the most from.